We all live in a world where the desire to be perfect is a daily thing.
The desire for most consumes us. Whether you’re a single mom trying to give her kids everything the other children at school have, or you’re the 30- something woman trying to blast that fat away and be as thin as the 20-something’s in your office. You could be the man in the boardroom boasting about his new car, when truly you cannot afford to pay for it. We are all striving for this ideal life, lifestyle, body, house, vacation etc… What for?
Are we honestly striving for these “perfect” things. These things that are so minor, no one else really cares. In all fairness, I think the only thing we are truly doing is being fake. Trying to be something you’re not, or trying to do something beyond your means to make yourself look as you want to, is not real life.
Have you ever thought that the neighbour that just bought a summer house may have a failing marriage, a long term illness, or just no fulfilment out of life? Have you ever thought the girl at work you envy because she’s so well dressed and has the perfect body could have an eating disorder? Maybe she’s lonely, maybe she has no family, maybe just maybe she too is striving to be something she is not.
The idea of perfection exists, but only because people choose to believe it. It’s non existential, it doesn’t have to exist. It doesn’t have to consume your world. We are all human, each one different from the next, no two are the same. Why would you want to be the same as everyone else?
I chose to write this today because I too am not “perfect” truth be told I don’t even know what “perfect” is. How can one really know. To me, it’s imaginary. It’s what we dream of when we are truly at peace with ourselves, but in the end it’s just a dream.
Life would be boring if everyone had a million dollar home, 2.5 kids, white picket fence, and a Lamborghini in the driveway. If every mother had to stay home, take her kids to soccer and dance class, while her husband was at work. Life wouldn’t include living at all.
So today, this is for all of you that live beyond your means, try to be something you truly don’t want to be, buy things you don’t have the money for, and all of you who strive to impress everyone you walk past. Stop. There is no point to this madness. Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind, don’t matter, and those who matter, don’t mind.
It’s because of people like this who “pretend” in life that the future generations think the way they do. We don’t have to see young girls upset over their weight plastering make-up on so they will be accepted. We don’t have to see young boys stealing from stores because they don’t have the same things as the other kids at school. That little boy has a single dad that’s working 3 jobs to make ends meet, and that little girl has a mother who spends 3 hours in the gym trying to achieve her “perfect” body.
To the world, you are just one person. Make it count. Don’t be like everyone else, don’t strive to be something you don’t want to be. Be you and be true to yourself. In the end, fancy cars, boats, summer houses, white picket fences, perfect bodies etc mean nothing. When you’re gone you’re gone and let me tell you something…. When you’re gone people don’t remember the materialistic things you had or how you had such a nice body. They remember you, for you. The true you that no one’s ever going to really know if you keep playing this pretend life.
Keep it real.